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Pay equality

Posted by Lizzie on Sep-5-2008

There’s a lot of talk about women’s issues this election cycle. Thanks to Hillary Clinton, and now Sarah Palin, we’re back in the spotlight. In that vein, Congress is pressing for a revote on the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act, which failed to pass previously. McCain has come out again it:

“I am all in favor of pay equity for women, but this kind of legislation, as is typical of what’s being proposed by my friends on the other side of the aisle, opens us up to lawsuits for all kinds of problems,” the expected GOP presidential nominee told reporters. “This is government playing a much, much greater role in the business of a private enterprise system.”

I’ve recently engaged in a half-hearted IT job search - in anticipation of my eventual graduation from the Tech program. There seems to be a little available, but I’ve heard that women are not treated favorably in the IT industry. It would please me, and thousands of other women, tremendously if this actually became law. Would I know that my male counterparts were making more than me? Probably not. But this act would give me recourse should I find out about a pay discrepancy after the fact. As a woman hoping to work in a male-dominated field, I would feel just a little better knowing I had a safety net.

There was some talk that this law isn’t necessary. I beg to differ. I worked with a company (unrelated to the tech field) that cut me a mystery check. When I inquired to what the purpose of the check was, I was told that it was to make up for a pay difference between me and my male counterparts. I had no idea that the men were making that much more per hour than I was, but there was a lawsuit and the settlement agreement was that this company would pay the hourly difference to each female for whatever period of time they agreed to (I think it was 3 months, even though I’d been there for over a year at that point). I left that company not long afterward, but my eyes had been opened. The reasoning for the lower pay was that women are mothers and so are prone to miss work because of their sick children. Men, on the other hand, are more reliable and should be rewarded. Really?

At a time when a major political party has nominated a self-proclaimed “hockey mom” to be vice president, there should be no more “she should get less because she’s a mom”. This woman is seeking a job while parenting 5 children (and potentially helping parent a grandchild) so the reason listed above would apply to her and her pay should be cut significantly. Right? No. Wrong. Her husband will be able to tend to the children while she runs for office and he can tend to the children while she continues to govern Alaska (except that he’s got a full-time job plus an extra job on the side in the summer, but that’s not this issue). It’s only fair that the rest of American women enjoy the same equality in pay as the women who govern them.

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Aug
12

A Rough Patch

Posted by Lizzie

The last week has been really rough for me. I didn’t want to post about it because I don’t want to become some whiny blogger who all too often focuses only on the negative. I was hoping that I could avoid it by avoiding the Internet. But then I realized that I have been exactly what I didn’t want to be- on this blog. Here is a place where I’m allowing myself to wallow- if only just a little bit. Because sometimes we all need to wallow- just a little bit.

There have been a lot of very stressful situations popping up in my life the last week. As much as I want to lay it all out here, I’m not going to. The situations to which I’m referring are very personal and very upsetting to everyone involved. I think it would be unfair to those other people if I laid all their business bare on the Internet. It doesn’t matter how much anonymity I have right now, it could eventually lead back to the people with whom I’m frustrated and angry but love anyway. I don’t think that permanently placing my hurt feelings on the web would be in anyone’s best interests (except maybe those that wish to lose themselves in what’s going on in someone else’s life). Yet, as a blogger, that is exactly my first inclination: “BLOG IT!” My fingers are itching to let everyone in on my own life’s little drama- to share with the world my level of frustration and hurt. My first instinct is to open my browser and tell my side so that maybe I can get a few pats on the back and maybe a “You go, girl!” Support, some people call it. I feel I need to blog it out, so I can get some support from other people that may have been through the same type of personal crisis as the one I’m currently working through. Except that it wouldn’t be private- no matter how few people actually read this blog anymore. I don’t even know if it would be productive for me. What would laying bare my soul really accomplish? Other than let me vent and allow others to see that maybe their own problems are so bad. Or vice versa: Make other people angry because I’m whining about something so trivial when they know what true suffering is.

Recently I’ve taken to reading some blogs wherein the author tells of suffering greater than mine1. I feel selfish because reading those blogs helps me appreciate what I do have and helps me refocus on those good things. I don’t comment and offer my own support to them, because I’m only reading to help me see my circumstances a little differently. It’s like counting your blessings. Sometimes it’s hard to see what a true blessing is unless someone else shows it to you. Online that’s sometimes through stories of the suffering of strangers. It’s extremely selfish, but sometimes I have no other way to see what is really good in my own life unless…

The last few days I’ve been experiencing one of the worst flares I’ve ever had. It’s, at times, been beyond belief. I couldn’t even bear to wear a bra because the straps felt like they were cutting into my skin. They weren’t, of course, but my body was protesting in such a way I was almost in a panic trying to get it off. The pressure from the shower head was almost more than I could bear and my shoes felt 4 sizes too small. I dare not lean back against the chair I’m sitting in or even lay my arms on the rests. If you’ve ever been in a vehicular accident and came away battered, you may understand the depths of my physical pain. I literally feel like every inch of my body has been thoroughly and violently beaten. It’s more than just feeling a flu-like ache all over (which is a normal sort of pain for me and how the pamphlets tell you to describe it to people) and I really can’t find any relief. And I truly believe it’s so bad because of the stress I’ve been under lately.

Believing that made me want to write about it all- to relieve it somehow. I thought, for a moment, that it would be like group therapy, where I could let all of the negativity just slide off my and give my struggles to someone else. But it’s not really like that, is it? It’s not a “safe” way to deal with your personal problems, no matter what other people might write about. There’s eventually going to be time when the words I write here about the problems I don’t have here will come back to haunt me.

So, instead I’ll whine a little about my physical suffering and about what’s not helping me. In a way I think this can help someone else appreciate their own blessings. At least that’s what I’m hoping.

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  1. I’m not discussing friends’ blogs here. Just random strangers I’ve happened across for one reason or another []