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Posted by Lizzie on Sep-5-2008

There’s a lot of talk about women’s issues this election cycle. Thanks to Hillary Clinton, and now Sarah Palin, we’re back in the spotlight. In that vein, Congress is pressing for a revote on the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act, which failed to pass previously. McCain has come out again it:

“I am all in favor of pay equity for women, but this kind of legislation, as is typical of what’s being proposed by my friends on the other side of the aisle, opens us up to lawsuits for all kinds of problems,” the expected GOP presidential nominee told reporters. “This is government playing a much, much greater role in the business of a private enterprise system.”

I’ve recently engaged in a half-hearted IT job search - in anticipation of my eventual graduation from the Tech program. There seems to be a little available, but I’ve heard that women are not treated favorably in the IT industry. It would please me, and thousands of other women, tremendously if this actually became law. Would I know that my male counterparts were making more than me? Probably not. But this act would give me recourse should I find out about a pay discrepancy after the fact. As a woman hoping to work in a male-dominated field, I would feel just a little better knowing I had a safety net.

There was some talk that this law isn’t necessary. I beg to differ. I worked with a company (unrelated to the tech field) that cut me a mystery check. When I inquired to what the purpose of the check was, I was told that it was to make up for a pay difference between me and my male counterparts. I had no idea that the men were making that much more per hour than I was, but there was a lawsuit and the settlement agreement was that this company would pay the hourly difference to each female for whatever period of time they agreed to (I think it was 3 months, even though I’d been there for over a year at that point). I left that company not long afterward, but my eyes had been opened. The reasoning for the lower pay was that women are mothers and so are prone to miss work because of their sick children. Men, on the other hand, are more reliable and should be rewarded. Really?

At a time when a major political party has nominated a self-proclaimed “hockey mom” to be vice president, there should be no more “she should get less because she’s a mom”. This woman is seeking a job while parenting 5 children (and potentially helping parent a grandchild) so the reason listed above would apply to her and her pay should be cut significantly. Right? No. Wrong. Her husband will be able to tend to the children while she runs for office and he can tend to the children while she continues to govern Alaska (except that he’s got a full-time job plus an extra job on the side in the summer, but that’s not this issue). It’s only fair that the rest of American women enjoy the same equality in pay as the women who govern them.

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Jul
28

New Adjustments

Posted by Lizzie

I am so beyond tired. I don’t think the best Starbucks coffee in town could keep my weary eyes open and my yawns suppressed. I’ve been given a lot of extra responsibility lately and I’ve still not adjusted.

Pee Wee has another job (I’ve mentioned this?) and as an effort to help her be more responsible as far as money is concerned, I’ve agreed to watch KJ while she’s working. This does not include when she wants to go hang out. I think for that she can pay and I don’t think that’s at all unreasonable. Lately though she’s been handing him off to me more and more. She’s having some trouble coping with his increased activity, but limited mobility. Children his age can get really frustrated sometimes and they need a certain amount of “in your face” entertainment. Then, of course, there are the evening fussy periods. I’ve tried to explain different ways of dealing with the stressful situations, but I don’t think it’s working. When he won’t calm down for her she almost immediately yells “Mom!”

I urge her to work on her parenting skills, because parenting as a teenager isn’t all cute clothes and adoring coos. Shoot, it’s not all that when you’re an adult with a partner who can help with the workload! But somewhere between being pregnant and now she’s finally come to the realization that babies really aren’t cute all the time and, honestly, I think she resents her life choice.

Grump and I were thinking of taking custody of him for a while when she graduates high school. She’s making some decisions regarding her future and it might just be better for them both if she did that alone. I don’t want to take away her parenting rights, but if he’s with us- two people that are already settled and have some stability in our lives- they’ll both be better off. She’ll be able to mature into a person that won’t resent her child and he’ll be in a nurturing environment without going from sitter to sitter as his mom struggles to feed him.

Some people, of course, think this is the wrong choice for us. They think that we’re giving her too much leeway and that we should just throw her to the wolves. The “she made her bed” crap. I thought about that and you know what? The only person that will really suffer is KJ. I know how long it took me to get my bearings as a young, single mother. And Pee Wee suffered for it (she won’t admit it, of course, but I live with the guilt of what my choices wrought on her). I don’t want that cycle to continue.

Add all of this to classes starting soon along with my responsibility to Mags and, well, I’m worn out right now. Luckily I’ve found momentary release online from time to time, but when I’m not at the computer there are so many other things to deal with. I’ll be glad when I’ve adjusted to the new routine.

Speaking of routines and classes, I’ll be taking a full course load this fall. That means 4 classes instead of 3. For a minute I was stressing out because of the potential for epic fail, but then I realized it’s just one more class. I’m pretty sure I can handle it. Hopefully not only will I be able to handle it, but I’ll be able to use my lessons as jumping off points for future posts.

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Jul
10

My Livingroom runneth over

Posted by Lizzie

Once again our house is full of teenagers. I feel like packing up some Rimowa luggage and getting out of dodge. Right now one of them is begging me to cook, and amazingly the livingroom looks like someone picked up a box of junk and flung it willy-nilly all over the place. Hi, kids? Yeah, can someone PLEASE pick up in there? Thanks.

Since Grump has gone to afternoons it seems like the house always has some kids in it. Usually I don’t mind them, but then they start wanting to get on the computer, playing rough house with Mags and/or commandeering my television. I’d really like it if they found something in the back yard to do. Of course, that would take them away from technology and we can’t have that can we?

Pee Wee is having more problems with her breasts. She’s got another infection and, honestly, I’m a little worried. Her doctor is too because she won’t call in the antibiotics. The doctor said that Pee Wee shouldn’t be getting these repeat infections. Hopefully we can get her into the office tomorrow. If we can’t then we’ll be going to the emergency room for sure. I’m keeping my fingers crossed that it’s nothing more than an infection.

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