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Pay equality

Posted by Lizzie on Sep-5-2008

There’s a lot of talk about women’s issues this election cycle. Thanks to Hillary Clinton, and now Sarah Palin, we’re back in the spotlight. In that vein, Congress is pressing for a revote on the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act, which failed to pass previously. McCain has come out again it:

“I am all in favor of pay equity for women, but this kind of legislation, as is typical of what’s being proposed by my friends on the other side of the aisle, opens us up to lawsuits for all kinds of problems,” the expected GOP presidential nominee told reporters. “This is government playing a much, much greater role in the business of a private enterprise system.”

I’ve recently engaged in a half-hearted IT job search - in anticipation of my eventual graduation from the Tech program. There seems to be a little available, but I’ve heard that women are not treated favorably in the IT industry. It would please me, and thousands of other women, tremendously if this actually became law. Would I know that my male counterparts were making more than me? Probably not. But this act would give me recourse should I find out about a pay discrepancy after the fact. As a woman hoping to work in a male-dominated field, I would feel just a little better knowing I had a safety net.

There was some talk that this law isn’t necessary. I beg to differ. I worked with a company (unrelated to the tech field) that cut me a mystery check. When I inquired to what the purpose of the check was, I was told that it was to make up for a pay difference between me and my male counterparts. I had no idea that the men were making that much more per hour than I was, but there was a lawsuit and the settlement agreement was that this company would pay the hourly difference to each female for whatever period of time they agreed to (I think it was 3 months, even though I’d been there for over a year at that point). I left that company not long afterward, but my eyes had been opened. The reasoning for the lower pay was that women are mothers and so are prone to miss work because of their sick children. Men, on the other hand, are more reliable and should be rewarded. Really?

At a time when a major political party has nominated a self-proclaimed “hockey mom” to be vice president, there should be no more “she should get less because she’s a mom”. This woman is seeking a job while parenting 5 children (and potentially helping parent a grandchild) so the reason listed above would apply to her and her pay should be cut significantly. Right? No. Wrong. Her husband will be able to tend to the children while she runs for office and he can tend to the children while she continues to govern Alaska (except that he’s got a full-time job plus an extra job on the side in the summer, but that’s not this issue). It’s only fair that the rest of American women enjoy the same equality in pay as the women who govern them.

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Aug
06

Some acne and much needed pain relief

Posted by Lizzie

My sun allergy causes my face to break out in really bad acne. It’s frustrating because I’ve tried some of the best acne treatments and still am having issues with it. I currently am harboring a rogue pimple which is leaving a huge purplish red mark on my cheek. This thing is begging to be popped, but it just won’t come to the surface (I know what it is because these monsters always do this on my cheeks). Someone today thought that I had a bruise on my face. No, it’s just a ginormous zit waiting to come out. Of course, I have the itty-bitty ones on my forehead and shoulders. They’re just incredibly unpleasant.

I’ve been told that I should cover up when I’m outside doing my gardening. I’ve tried that too. Doesn’t matter where the sun hits me, my face and shoulders break out. Every single time. I pretend that I don’t care because I’m so cool and, well, too old to care about those kinds of things. But they really do bother me. I hate looking in the mirror when I’m having a break out, because it’s just very ugly. No amount of makeup and/or hair dye is going to change that when the sun and my skin do battle like this.

In other areas of my health, it seems that I’ve gotten a little control on the pain aspect of my illness. I’m either developing an even higher tolerance for pain or my pain management techniques are finally starting to work. OR it simmers down in warm weather. I’m hoping that it’s one of the first two options because cold weather is moving in fast and I don’t want to deal with the same kind of pain for another six months. Anyway, I have to usual morning stiffness and pretty major TMJ issues, but other than that, I’m as close to perfect as I’m going to ever get with my health. I haven’t had the urge to strangle my health care providers in a while, so I’m thinking I’m making some progress in that area.

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Feb
04

Walk a Mile in Her Shoes

Posted by Lizzie

I was just floating around, trying to… I’m not really sure. At any rate, I came across this forum thread wherein the original poster announced s/he believes her/his sister-in-law is a huge fraud. There were a lot of responses, but this is my favorite and I want to post it here for my own future reference.

Your first sentence was enough. Those of us who have to deal with Fibromyalgia everyday eventually just cut people like you out of our lives for good.

What makes you think she DOESN’T have it?
Why do you care what she does all day?

You say she uses it as an excuse not to get off her “big backside”. what is that all about? Are you perfect? Do you think if she weren’t big as you say she would feel better?
She is probably afraid to get up and do something because she knows it will cause her pain. Something that is simple and done without thought for others like, chopping vegetables, vacuuming, washing the floor etc. can put us into agony. We avoid it because we are in pain, then on a “good” day which some one else already described to you as horrible we have to decide if we should try to do something that could put us into bed and tears for a week or more or try to let it go and enjoy the fact that we can move around a bit.

usually out of guilt we choose to do whatever it is that needs to be done, Then when we can’t so much as walk from the bed to the bathroom without exrutiating pain and we can’t keep our eyes open yet we can’t sleep either We have to deal with someone like you who thinks we are lazy.

We are not lazy, we don’t want to sit home while everyone else is out and about, we don’t want to miss special events. We don’t want to have to ask you to help zipper the kids jackets because last night we made you dinner that involved chopping something and now our hands don’t work!

We learn to not make plans in advance so as not to dissapoint and if that’s not possible we either push it or we do dissapoint.

We cannot just live spontaniously-we must always consider what the price will be that we know we will have to pay for doing something you take for granted. We don’t WANT to dissapoint our children because we can’t help out in their class trip that we volunteered for a month ago because the day we said yes was “good” day. I could go on and on but hey it’s actually PAINFUL to type for this long. Dealing with attitudes such as your is also very painful. I really feel for your sister in law. I am so glad she is not married to you which brings me back to-What do you care? Really, if you can’t accept it, why not just leave her alone? You say you have a bad back? and you hate it when people say they do? We WISH we had a bad back and hate it when you think it can even compare. [kdel]

(I’ve cleaned up the paragraph structure a little to make it easier to read.)

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Oct
15

Dentemp OS Saves the Day

Posted by Lizzie

Many people with fibromyalgia also have TMJ (Temporomandibular Joint) Syndrome. I’m no different. My biggest symptom with this particular syndrome is jaw clenching and teeth grinding. I’ve clenched my jaw so hard that I’ve broken two molars. Of course, that led to crowns. Unfortunately, I don’t have much luck with those either- especially if I’m having an episode.

Right after I got my first crown, I waited the prescribed amount of time and then went out to dinner with my husband, just as we had planned. I ordered soup, which is one of my favorite things to eat. Not long into the meal I felt my cap pop right off. I almost swallowed it when I felt it rolling around in my mouth. There I was, at dinner, spitting my own tooth out into a napkin. It was too late to get back into the dentist, so I was stuck. So much for a good meal. Soup was all I had that night.

It was after I got fixed up that I heard about Dentemp OS for temporary dental repair. Dentemp OS is a magical little solution that will temporarily repair loose crowns, replace lost fillings, and relieve pain. It comes in a small plastic vial and is ready to use. Just take it out and pop it in. No mixing, no mess and you can eat on it within 30 minutes. It’s FDA approved for oral care, so you know it’s been fully tested and safe. Each vial contains at least 6 repairs. That’s a comforting thought when you’re out eating and want to avoid the embarrassment of holding your own tooth in your napkin.

I now keep Dentemp OS in my purse for “just in case”. I know I have this problem and I know that eventually it’ll cause me more problems with my teeth. So, why should I risk ruining dinner again? This is a perfect solution for people like me. I’ll still be careful with my crowns and fillings, but now at least I don’t have to worry about them.

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