Meditating the Pain Away

A few years ago we went to South Carolina and stayed in a Hilton Head rental. We stayed for a week and a half and I loved it. It was the best vacation I’d ever had. We had immediate access to a private beach, a pool and spent a lot of time strolling along the walking paths (like a sidewalk but different). Being so close to the ocean was calming for me and so I use my memories from there for meditation purposes.

There are many health benefits of meditation which include but are not limited to:

• Stress reduction

  Meditating properly helps bring stress chemicals down to normal levels, eases anxiety, and for some people even cures phobias.

  Neuroscientists have found that meditators shift their brain activity to different areas of the cortex - brain waves in the stress-prone right frontal cortex move to the calmer left frontal cortex. This mental shift decreases the negative effects of stress, mild depression and anxiety.[source]

• Decreases blood pressure

  See Above for why.

• Decreases muscle tension which can reduce the frequency and severity of headaches

  Learning to recognize muscle tension through meditation is an excellent way of controlling chronic pain. Many people suffer from tension (stress) headaches and proper meditation can reduce that.

• Increases self-awareness

  This can help with problem solving and issues with low self-confidence. Most meditation requires that you remove all thought from your mind and float in “nothing”. Because of emotional conflicts, the practitioner is forced to deal with issues s/he wasn’t aware of previously. Then the brain follows paths to a resolution to these conflicts, leading to higher levels of self-confidence. [source]

How Do I Do It?

Depending on what you read regarding meditation you are either supposed to empty your mind and completely relax or focus on something that relaxes you. It’s almost impossible for me to completely empty my mind. Just thinking about emptying my mind causes me to think about something. Obviously that method doesn’t work for me. And it may not work for you. My method may not work for you either, so take that into consideration if you try it.

First, I make sure that I have absolute solitude. I cannot be disturbed during my meditation. Because I’m a mom and wife, I have to make sure there’s no one home and the dog is outside. I go into a room with no phone and no television. Nothing to distract me from my meditation time.

Then, I put on a CD of sounds of nature. I particularly like the sounds of thunderstorms or waves breaking in the ocean. I try to limit the sounds of animals as they can be too distracting for me. I place a folded blanket on the floor and sit cross-legged on that. Then I close my eyes.

This is when I go back to Hilton Head. It’s a more complex type of meditation than what you may have read about elsewhere. With my eyes closed I imagine the blue sky above me. Then, if I’m using the ocean CD, I imagine looking toward the shore with the waves crashing against the sand. I imagine the smell of a salty breeze and the feel of fine sand under my legs. I use my mind’s eye to walk me from one sensation to the next until all of my senses are utilized.

When I’m at a place where I can almost believe I’m really on that beach in Hilton Head, I start to really relax. I start by relaxing the muscles on the top of my head and work my way down to my toes. I mentally find every muscle that is being used and relax it just enough (I don’t want to fall asleep or fall over). This is amazingly useful in finding those trouble spots that you didn’t know were troublesome. I imagine that each muscle is being smoothed over by a warm breeze. I do this for each part of my body, including my face and, yes, my ears.

Finally I’m completely relaxed and I let myself “walk” down the beach. When I was physically in Hilton Head, the early morning was the best time of day for me. I could walk on that beach and not be bothered by anyone- save for the occasional jogger. Since I was the only one in my family who enjoyed these walks, I was left alone with myself and Mother Nature. It was peaceful and I was completely content. It was a near-perfect experience for me. And so, when I meditate I take myself back there.

Today there is much emphasis on medications to ease your mind and calm your body. Many people still scoff at the “New Age” practice of meditation¹ and refuse to contemplate it. But when you’ve exhausted the options modern medicine offers for stress-relief and pain management, meditation is really something to consider. Because, believe it or not, it really works.

1. Though meditation has been practiced for centuries in Eastern cultures [↩]

The Sun Doesn’t Like Me

I have been so sick this past week. It seems like the sun comes out and sucks away all of my energy. Throughout the winter I was sure I’d found a way to deal with this evil illness, then spring came. Just in time for me to happily putt around in my yard. In the sun. Which sucked my energy dry. I can’t even blame it on the stress. I’ve been more stressed out in previous- cold and sunless months - than I’ve been this whole past week. I’d still like to go on one of those luxury vacations- as long as it’s as fun indoors as it is outdoors.

Can I just say that I’m really upset that going outside makes me so damned sick? Can I just say that it would be nice if I didn’t feel the need to sleep three whole hours in the middle of the day? Can I just say… Nevermind.

In other more jolly news:
Have you seen Wendy Piersall’s Ultimate List of Moms on Twitter? I’m proud to be included. Anyway, she put it up the first part of April and it’s officially gone crazy. As of this writing there are 318 comments- most of which are twittering moms listing their twitter IDs. The list in incredibly useful. If you haven’t done so, and you’re a twittering mom, go put your name on the list. And if you want to follow me (though I’m mostly pretty quiet) my ID is Lizzief. I’ll follow anyone that isn’t a spammer.

A Wall of Music

I think I’ve come up with a pretty good solution to my issue regarding interruptions when I’m working. I’ve been browsing MP3 players and think one of these might be perfect for me¹.

I realize that work-from-home parents are supposed to be available at the beck and call of their children and significant others, but there are other times when you just have to get things done. Many parents are lucky in that they have an office with walls and a door that locks (should that need arise). I’m not. My office is in a main area of the house and the family has no qualms about coming to me for everything. When I’ve got to get an article out this week as well as finish a school project I may need uninterrupted work time. That means, sadly, I have to block them out.

My problem is that when I’m writing and get in my groove my work flows and is practically readable. When I’m working and have been interrupted 5 times my work is negatively affected. It’s obvious. You can go through either of my blogs and read through them to be able to tell when I’ve been interrupted.

Grump just interrupted me, for example. Right in the middle of that last sentence. The flow got jammed. He’s home from work for the day and really doesn’t think that anything I could be doing online is profitable². It’s getting to be old hat telling him to leave me alone, feeling guilty, and letting my work suffer. Pee Wee likes to have mother/daughter chats when I’m in the middle of an article. This, of course, makes me grouchy. Her feelings get hurt. I feel guilty. I’m off the computer. She gets to check her MySpace³. Today should be tons of fun because they’re both home. *chuckle*

Can’t have a physical wall, but the music would make for a perfect invisible one. I’ll try it out and let you know how I fare. Or, rather, how they fare without me for a few minutes.

1. I did have a MP3 player previously, but Pee Wee commandeered it and, well, it didn’t end pretty [↩]
2. But he likes that money. [↩]
3. Aha! The game is up, my dear! [↩]