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Posted by Lizzie on Sep-5-2008

There’s a lot of talk about women’s issues this election cycle. Thanks to Hillary Clinton, and now Sarah Palin, we’re back in the spotlight. In that vein, Congress is pressing for a revote on the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act, which failed to pass previously. McCain has come out again it:

“I am all in favor of pay equity for women, but this kind of legislation, as is typical of what’s being proposed by my friends on the other side of the aisle, opens us up to lawsuits for all kinds of problems,” the expected GOP presidential nominee told reporters. “This is government playing a much, much greater role in the business of a private enterprise system.”

I’ve recently engaged in a half-hearted IT job search - in anticipation of my eventual graduation from the Tech program. There seems to be a little available, but I’ve heard that women are not treated favorably in the IT industry. It would please me, and thousands of other women, tremendously if this actually became law. Would I know that my male counterparts were making more than me? Probably not. But this act would give me recourse should I find out about a pay discrepancy after the fact. As a woman hoping to work in a male-dominated field, I would feel just a little better knowing I had a safety net.

There was some talk that this law isn’t necessary. I beg to differ. I worked with a company (unrelated to the tech field) that cut me a mystery check. When I inquired to what the purpose of the check was, I was told that it was to make up for a pay difference between me and my male counterparts. I had no idea that the men were making that much more per hour than I was, but there was a lawsuit and the settlement agreement was that this company would pay the hourly difference to each female for whatever period of time they agreed to (I think it was 3 months, even though I’d been there for over a year at that point). I left that company not long afterward, but my eyes had been opened. The reasoning for the lower pay was that women are mothers and so are prone to miss work because of their sick children. Men, on the other hand, are more reliable and should be rewarded. Really?

At a time when a major political party has nominated a self-proclaimed “hockey mom” to be vice president, there should be no more “she should get less because she’s a mom”. This woman is seeking a job while parenting 5 children (and potentially helping parent a grandchild) so the reason listed above would apply to her and her pay should be cut significantly. Right? No. Wrong. Her husband will be able to tend to the children while she runs for office and he can tend to the children while she continues to govern Alaska (except that he’s got a full-time job plus an extra job on the side in the summer, but that’s not this issue). It’s only fair that the rest of American women enjoy the same equality in pay as the women who govern them.

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Archive for August, 2008

Aug
23

Joe Biden is In

Posted by Lizzie

Well, it looks like I won’t have to update my passport now. Joe Biden has been picked as Obama’s running mate. I happen to like Sen. Biden, he’s just about the kind of spitfire we need right now. He could quite possibly send McCain over the edge into temper-tantrum land if he plays his cards right. Plus he’s got “experience” and a proven track record of being “American enough”. It makes my day to know he’s going to be on the ticket.

Now, we can get back to wondering how it’s even remotely possible for someone to have so many houses that they forget how many they have. Oh, and saying that Mrs. McCain owns them all doesn’t make what he said right. Nor does it make me, as someone with a family struggling to stay afloat, feel good about the economy.

In other news, we’ve finally gotten enough money to go school shopping. Unfortunately, Grump has to drive so it’s going to make matters that much worse. He doesn’t want to go until later and he’s going to be a pain the entire time. I’d drive myself, but I can’t, so it’s him at the helm. We don’t have enough money to shop at one store, so that’s not going to sit well with him. And he won’t allow anyone else to drive the car so they can take me. I do think I’m going to end up in tears before the day is over. Or he and I will have a huge battle and not speak for a couple of days. I hate shopping with my darling husband. Really. Hopefully we’ll have enough money left over to take him out to eat- that should soothe is cranky mood. Hopefully.

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Aug
21

Bed for Two

Posted by Lizzie

When I go to bed I like to watch tv with the closed captioning on. It used to be because Grump had to get up early and didn’t want the tv on at all. I compromised (because I have to watch television to go to sleep). Now Grump doesn’t get home from work until after I’ve been asleep for a couple of hours. He gets to sleep without the tv on those nights.

On the weekends, though, he has started to get agitated with my tv habit again. It’s almost like when we were newly married (just a couple of months in) and he suddenly realized that I need the tv to get to sleep. It was an argument for a while. I’m willing to compromise, I’d tell him, but it’s my bed too and I should be able to watch tv if I want to. He’d growl and throw mini-tantrums. After a while he gave up. I was compromising with the closed captioning, for goodness sake, and I felt it unfair for him to decide out of the blue that I needed to turn it off. He’s getting to that point again.

It’s frustrating because I know he’s getting used to things being the way they were before we were married (at least the going to sleep part). But it’s still my bed too. I try to fall asleep before he comes to bed (my meds about knock me out and I turn off the telly before I go to dreamland), but sometimes he insists that I go downstairs while he’s going to bed. They say that most marriages end because of financial difficulties, but I wonder how many marriages could be saved if the couples had separate bedrooms. :)

I told him that he only has to deal until next week. Starting then I’ll be staying up late to get my studying in and he’ll be able to do his own thing before I come to bed. He just rolled his eyes. Hey, he should be glad I don’t want to fall asleep to loud music. That’s how my mother sleeps.

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Aug
21

Midlife Crisis?

Posted by Lizzie

I was washing KJ’s crib bedding the other day and it finally really hit me. I’m a grandmother. Ok, I’ve known this for a while, but some part of me was still in denial. I guess it’s because of my final decision to have no more children. I’m young enough to be able to have another child safely, but getting to the point in my life where caring for an infant would just be too much. The moment by body finally understood what my mind was saying I felt really old- as if I should be looking toward retirement while baking pies and knitting socks (I can do the knitting, but the baking isn’t my style).

Pee Wee asked me if I wanted to have more children- and for awhile during her pregnancy I did. But no. I’ve reproduced enough, I think, and I’m done with it. At this point in my life it’s time to give all of my attention to the family I already have and to concentrate on realizing my own dreams. Another baby would put a damper on that. Some people just aren’t meant to have dozens of children. I’m sure now that I’m one of those people. That didn’t stop me from mourning my youth, though.

What could’ve been- should’ve been- would’ve been… Yikes. Am I entering a midlife crisis here or what?

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