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Posted by Lizzie on Sep-5-2008

There’s a lot of talk about women’s issues this election cycle. Thanks to Hillary Clinton, and now Sarah Palin, we’re back in the spotlight. In that vein, Congress is pressing for a revote on the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act, which failed to pass previously. McCain has come out again it:

“I am all in favor of pay equity for women, but this kind of legislation, as is typical of what’s being proposed by my friends on the other side of the aisle, opens us up to lawsuits for all kinds of problems,” the expected GOP presidential nominee told reporters. “This is government playing a much, much greater role in the business of a private enterprise system.”

I’ve recently engaged in a half-hearted IT job search - in anticipation of my eventual graduation from the Tech program. There seems to be a little available, but I’ve heard that women are not treated favorably in the IT industry. It would please me, and thousands of other women, tremendously if this actually became law. Would I know that my male counterparts were making more than me? Probably not. But this act would give me recourse should I find out about a pay discrepancy after the fact. As a woman hoping to work in a male-dominated field, I would feel just a little better knowing I had a safety net.

There was some talk that this law isn’t necessary. I beg to differ. I worked with a company (unrelated to the tech field) that cut me a mystery check. When I inquired to what the purpose of the check was, I was told that it was to make up for a pay difference between me and my male counterparts. I had no idea that the men were making that much more per hour than I was, but there was a lawsuit and the settlement agreement was that this company would pay the hourly difference to each female for whatever period of time they agreed to (I think it was 3 months, even though I’d been there for over a year at that point). I left that company not long afterward, but my eyes had been opened. The reasoning for the lower pay was that women are mothers and so are prone to miss work because of their sick children. Men, on the other hand, are more reliable and should be rewarded. Really?

At a time when a major political party has nominated a self-proclaimed “hockey mom” to be vice president, there should be no more “she should get less because she’s a mom”. This woman is seeking a job while parenting 5 children (and potentially helping parent a grandchild) so the reason listed above would apply to her and her pay should be cut significantly. Right? No. Wrong. Her husband will be able to tend to the children while she runs for office and he can tend to the children while she continues to govern Alaska (except that he’s got a full-time job plus an extra job on the side in the summer, but that’s not this issue). It’s only fair that the rest of American women enjoy the same equality in pay as the women who govern them.

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Dec
05

Update on My New Meds

Posted by Lizzie in Living with Pain, health&wellness 

I’ve been keeping track of my mood and cognitive functions for the last week. I’ve been taking the mega doses of Vitamin for two weeks  now and figured after the first week I should start feeling some results. If, indeed, this is my problem. I still don’t trust doctors.

The good news is that a lot of my memory issues have gone away. At least they seem to have gone. I don’t find myself lost in thought a million miles away from whomever is speaking to me. I haven’t had problems finding the right word. And I’m pretty sure I aced my last math test (I’ll find that out tonight). All if this is happening just in time for final exams. Yay!

It hasn’t stopped the pain though. That would suck a lot worse if I wasn’t becoming used to being in pain all the time. I forget what it feels like to not be in pain. I was talking to my husband the other night and told him that I wish I could be normal again. He says "You are normal". Um, no, I’m not.  Normal is not knowing what chronic illness is like and assuming that the sick person is faking. That’s what "normal" is according to me. This definition would then include my husband.

I’ve gotten over the crap that happened last week in math. I have no use for people like that anymore. My psych professor was talking about Panic Disorder (which I have) and agoraphobia (which I don’t have). He mentioned that many agoraphobics don’t like to go outside of their homes because they’re afraid they will have a panic attack and humiliate themselves. To a certain degree I can understand that. For a while now I’ve been worried that when I speak I’ll forget how to speak. This has happened a couple of times, usually ending up with me stuttering and sounding like a complete ass. The thing with those women in math certainly didn’t help in that aspect and now I know that people notice that I walk differently. I shouldn’t be bothered by any of this, but I am. I think about it. And I thought about it a lot last night after class. Could I potentially become agoraphobic? I doubt it. But I’m certainly a lot less social than I used to be. I’d much rather not go somewhere that will include meeting new people. I try to fight that and do it anyway, but I always make an ass out of myself. So…

Back to the Vitamin D. I want to say that it’s definitely working, but then I don’t want to get my hopes up and end up falling back to where I was. So, I’ll leave it at it’s easing my symptoms and really making my life better. I feel improved, even if I don’t "look" improved. So, that’s something. Here’s me keeping my fingers crossed.

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    1. Miz UV (7 comments.) Said on December 5, 2007 @ 2:22 pm:

      I know what you mean about redefining normal. I say things like, “Yay, I don’t have a migraine today, just my normal headache.” Yes, it’s normal to be in pain every day, I just hope it’s not worse than x. And then when it starts to be x+1 on a regular basis, I think, well, I just hope it doesn’t start to be x+2 all the time, etc.

      And that’s interesting about agoraphobia. I find myself doing less lately and not going out because I’m worried places will be too bright or too loud and I’ll get another migraine. When I’m on meds I get so spacey and sometimes wonder if I’ll forget what I’m doing or how to get back home. Maybe full-blown agoraphobia can start via reasonable concerns.

      Good luck with the vitamins. A little relief is still better than none, if there are no side effects.

    2. Lizzie Said on December 5, 2007 @ 2:54 pm:

      Hi! Nice to see you again. :)

      I know what you mean about redefining normal. I say things like, “Yay, I don’t have a migraine today, just my normal headache.” Yes, it’s normal to be in pain every day, I just hope it’s not worse than x. And then when it starts to be x+1 on a regular basis, I think, well, I just hope it doesn’t start to be x+2 all the time, etc.

      Amen! Then it gets to the point when you stop telling people because they don’t get it and you feel like you’re whining. But when the pain is there all the time… I’m glad you understand that. I’m not glad that you’re going through it, but I’m glad you understand.

      My biggest issue is with the embarrassment of my illness. Two times in the last two weeks I’ve been publicly humiliated because of stuff I can’t control. It’s especially hard because I used to be “normal” and didn’t have to worry about that stuff. Now it’s “normal” for me to take a long time to get a sentence out and try to be unobtrusive.

      I’m glad I have the Internet. At least on here I don’t have to worry about that crap. At least not from certain people. :)